D.I.Y. BDSM for Couples from a Pro Dominatrix

 

BDSM for Couples
Mistress Lily Ready to Teach you Something New. Photo by Kriss Abigal

 

Mistress Lily is the queen of D.I.Y, especially when it comes to BDSM for couples. We love how she finds ways to incorporate BDSM into everyday love. Mistress Lily has been a professional dominatrix for over three years and has helped to educate others on ways to incorporate BDSM into their everyday life.  We love BDSM at Taboo Tabou because it’s the ultimate indulgence. We got to hang out with the queen of D.I.Y. BDSM and learn some tips and tricks for incorporating role play into the bedroom. Interested in more? She’s going to be teaching her workshop “Sensation of Role Play” at Taboo Tabou Wednesday July 19th at 9 PM. Tickets are available in advance for $10 and $25 at the door the night of the event.

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How did you find yourself as a professional dominatrix?

I found out that I enjoyed spanking and being dominant after a old partner asked for me to spank him. I enjoyed seeing the release of being yourself and I liked being a women in charge. I asked around to friends to see if there was a place I could do this for money and I got to work at a safe, lovely dungeon and I learned a lot about safety and how to be a pro domme with toys, role play, ect.  During my time at the dungeon I learned different ways to incorporate BDSM for couples into play.

 

What are some things you wish people knew about BDSM?

That it’s OK to like whatever you like, just make sure its safe and consensual. We have a saying, “I will hurt you, but I will never harm you.” I also want people to not shut down their desires, BDSM is whatever you are interested in, you don’t have to like everything under the BDSM rainbow, figure out what you like and then go from there. It’s important to also understand what your partner wants and is comfortable with in order to truly experience BDSM for couples. 

 

What are some elements of BDSM couples could incorporate into their daily sexual activity?

Being yourself and fully enjoying yourself. I see so many people finding out what they like through BDSM than mainstream sex. Also it’s important to realize that BDSM for couples doesn’t always have to be sexual and it can be more of a mental play.

What are some of your favorite elements of BDSM for couples to try out in the bedroom?  

to try new things! Also role play, being a different person or wearing something you would never wear in real life can open some sexual desires that you maybe thought you never had!

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Photo by Chris Nightingale

What are some tips you have for a couple trying new things in the bedroom?

Try some music! An outfit! A different mood! Talk to your partner(s) outside of the bedroom about something you’ve wanted to try and then act it out. You’ll maybe giggle or something might not be the best fit but it’s all about trying things and being open, you’ll be surprised on what you find!

 

What is your favorite toy right now?

the We-vibe Sync is perfect to use as a way to incorporate some BDSM for couples! I think because you or your partner can control the vibe from their phone or remote gives a little thrill to try being dominant or submissive. since it’s an awesome water proof and internal/clitoral vibe for the person with the vagina you can do other things with your hands since it stays in place!

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Photo by Christ Nightingale

What is your favorite lingerie right now?

I’m obsessed with our Mae Emerald bra and pantie set! It has that vintage Betty Page flair with a modern color. the bra is soft but packs a punch with it’s cut out sections and gold accents and adjustable straps. I also love the semi- see through panties so your cheeks are exposed but your naughty bits are still covered for a tease surprise.

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